Cynthia Ropek, MA
There are mental and physical health benefits associated with being in a happy relationship. When we feel secure and connected with our partner, our energies, intelligence, motivation, and creativity are available for living fully. When we feel insecure and disconnected, those same resources are siphoned off for protecting ourselves. Feeling connected vs. feeling disconnected in our primary relationship is the difference between thriving and merely surviving. This effects all areas of our life and well being.
If you and your partner are feeling undervalued, misunderstood, unseen, or lonely, couples' therapy can help you reconnect and finally stop the blame game. If you and your partner are doing well but are facing a major transition, couples therapy can assist you in staying strong and connected as you navigate changes.
The goals of my work with couples are to help you become allies vs. adversaries and to help you become experts on each other so that you can be in each other's care. Through greater understanding of old injuries and ongoing cycles of hurt and misattunement, you will learn and practice how to make repairs and how to make each other feel safe and cherished. You will learn how to fight well using principles of fairness, sensitivity, and mutuality.
I am a PACT Level 3 trained clinician (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy).
PACT is a powerful experiential approach that blends developmental neuroscience, attachment
theory, and arousal regulation to help couples heal old injuries, and develop and
maintain secure bonds.
As a couples therapist, I am an investigator, guide, teacher, and collaborator, rather than a mediator or referee. My focus is facilitating safe, secure relationships which lead to comfort, excitement and fulfillment. My hope is that your secure foundation with your partner will have a positive ripple effect in your world.